How do you keep young girls from succeeding? Send Jameis Winston to talk to them. Yesterday, Tampa Bay Buccaneers Quarterback, Jameis Winston, spoke to third, fourth and fifth graders at Melrose Elementary School in St. Petersburg, Florida. During his speech, He was attempting to motivate the children but became concerned when he saw “lazy” body language from some of the children. Based on what he saw, he encouraged the boys to stand up and the girls to sit down. Initially, you’re thinking that Winston would give each gender their chance to stand up in order to repeat after Winston and say, “I can do anything I put my mind to.” Granted, the message Winston was providing is completely true and it is very motivating to everyone, but where Winston became his old self is when he spoke directly to the boys in the room and said, “Now, a lot of boys aren’t supposed to be soft-spoken. You know what I’m saying? One day, y’all are going to have a very deep voice like this. One day, you’ll have a very, very deep voice. But the ladies, they’re supposed to be silent, polite, gentle. My men; my men are supposed to be strong.”
To hear him say it, right from his own mouth, you can click here.
While some may see nothing wrong with what Winston said, let me break it down for you. This is how we, as a society, keep young girls/women from climbing to bigger and better things. If we tell a young child, no matter the gender, they can’t do something, or we exclude them and tell everyone else around them that they can do something, we are effectively writing the book for that child. What do you think went through the head’s of the girls in that room Winston so eloquently spoken in? Psychologically, one would have to imagine that the girls were thinking, “if Jameis Winston is telling me I’m supposed to be soft, gentile, polite and quiet, then that is what I’m supposed to be.”
Based on what Winston said, it also gives the boys/young men in the room what I call a “free pass”. It gives them an excuse to act a specific way. It also shames them for acting what some would consider as “weak”. For example, how do you act if a young boy cries when compared to a young girl? The fact is, it’s OK and completely acceptable for a young boy to show emotion. Ultimately, a boy in touch with his emotions is a boy whom can empathize with people, provide better support to his spouse and provide better support and understanding to his future children. Let’s face it, everyone in this awesome world is different; and that’s awesome in and of itself! Why should we tell any child, or any person for that matter, that they can’t do something? We shouldn’t. It’s that simple! When I was a child, we had athletes come to our school and speak to us but they spoke to us in more general terms. Winston, whom attended and graduated from Florida State University, isn’t exactly the person you want speaking to young children, let alone people.
Remember, this is the same Jameis Winston who was accused of rape and sexual assault while attending FSU. He would later settle with his accuser out of court. Beyond that, this is the same Jameis Winston who used is eloquent rhetoric to say a terrible slang term while standing on a table in one of FSU’s cafeterias. The point is, Jameis Winston is a horrible ambassador for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. James Winston is a questionable person, based on his life choices and Jameis Winston isn’t a role model. This is the same Jameis Winston who was spoon-fed through his school days, based on his football talents, which is both sad and an argument for another day.
Listen, I’m a male, and I can tell you that most men are simpletons. I know I am. While we are all unique and different and all have many special things to bring to this world, I can tell you that I have come across more women whom are far more capable than men, than vice versa. This isn’t the 1930’s, 40’s or 50’s!!! This is the 21st Century and it’s time we stop trying to keep women and young ladies down! Women have the ability to do anything a man can do. Anything. Women can even, in many cases, do things better than men. Why give young girls/ladies a gender specific role and tell them they can’t do something? You shouldn’t. The moral of this story, don’t listen to what Jameis Winston says, don’t let Jameis Winston talk to children or try to motivate them, and don’t ever let anyone tell you, you can’t do something!